The 9 Pillars Of Mental Health
Productivity Rules & Hacks – Ways To Save Time Vol. 1
Some productivity rules & hacks
1. decide what’s important
In 5 years, 80% of what you are doing today will not turn into anything. Most of what you spent your time on right now is just busywork and has no useful outcome.
2. Prioritize health (food, sleep and exercise)
Taking care of those basics can help you triple your outcome because they increase your focus, motivation and energy levels.
3. The 2-Minute Rule
If you can do something (such as writing a quick email reply or a house chore) in 2 minutes or less, do it now. Planning it for later, remembering it and doing it in the future will longer than taking care of it instantly.
The Happiness Triangle
The 3 sides/reactions of your psyche:
1
“That bad person.”
Do you complain and blame the situation on someone/something else?
2
“Poor me.”
Are you feeling sorry for yourself and how unfairly life is treating you?
3
“What should I do from now on?”
Are you being realistic by looking for an answer to move forward, leaving the negative situation behind you?
Whenever you find yourself in a conflict situation or negative mood, become aware of your thoughts and ask yourself: Which side of the triangle am I currently expressing/living?
Even if side 1 and 2 might give you temporary comfort, they will not give you a solution.
Always opt for side 3: “What should I do from now on?”
Inspired from the book “The Courage to be Happy” based on Adlerian Psychology
How-To: Self-Acceptance
What is self-acceptance?
Self-acceptance is the consent to be you, without any judgment or fighting what is. It means knowing that we are who we are and that we are worthy of love, pleasure, joy, and respect.
The error
We think that we can only change if we are hard on ourselves and that self-acceptance means that we will actually let ourselves and our habits get worse.
The steps:
- Let go of your subjective narrative and the story you tell yourself (e.g. “I can only accept myself once I have stopped/started XYC.”)
- See yourself with a beginner’s mind as if you don’t know anything about yourself or your past.
- Stop clinging to things to be different.
affirmations:
“For right now, this is the way I am.”
“I only have control over this present moment, not the past, and not the future.”
“I will have faults, bad days, and will struggle for as long as I have a pulse.”
Conclusion
We, as humans, must allow ourselves to be human. We have to now that we are doing the best we can with what we have.
Source: Kimberley Quinlan, Marriage and Family Therapist
Selflessness Doesn’t Exist
Selfishness comes from our oldest and deepest instinct of survival & self-preservation.
Therefore, practicing pure selflessness would be equivalent to not being aware of yourself/your being and, as a result, almost the same as not being at all.
So: Stop feeling bad about being selfish (to a degree). We’re alive. We’re human. We’re selfish.
Inspired from: Anthony de Mello – Awareness