The 3 sides/reactions of your psyche:
“That bad person.”
Do you complain and blame the situation on someone/something else?
Are you feeling sorry for yourself and how unfairly life is treating you?
“What should I do from now on?”
Are you being realistic by looking for an answer to move forward, leaving the negative situation behind you?
Whenever you find yourself in a conflict situation or negative mood, become aware of your thoughts and ask yourself: Which side of the triangle am I currently expressing/living?
Even if side 1 and 2 might give you temporary comfort, they will not give you a solution.
Always opt for side 3: “What should I do from now on?”
Inspired from the book “The Courage to be Happy” based on Adlerian Psychology