Listen intensely.
Don’t tell others what to do, think or feel.
Don’t talk about yourself to soothe your anxiety and exert control. Let go and focus on the other person.
Is what you’re saying saving you or someone else? If not, try to stay quiet.
Be brave enough to examine why you’re talking. What’s your intention? Do you want to connect or to control?
Don’t unload all your saved-up words as soon as the other person seem ls to be done talking. Instead ask: “Is there more?”
Embrace stillness. Surrender to the discomfort of silence.