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How To Calm Yourself Down Instantly

3 steps to relaxation

1. BREATH
Pay attention to your breath (e.g. with the box breathing method).

2. VISUALIZATION
Close your eyes and imagine yourself in your favorite location (e.g. in nature

3. SOUND
Listen to the surrounding sounds to bring you back into the present moment.

My Favorite Definition Of Meditation

Buddhist Zen Stones

Identification with your thoughts is the reason for stress, anxiety and overwhelm.

Meditation is the best practice to stop this behavior. It helps you see through the illusionary self of the ego, stop ruminating and live life with your senses and not with your head.

Meditation is a simple way to discover the absence and illusion of the ego (fake self).

From the “Making Sense” podcast by Sam Harris.

10 Rules Of life

  1. Never put something off until tomorrow that you can do today.
  2. Never bother someone else for something you can do yourself.
  3. Never spend your money before you have it.
  4. Never buy something for the only reason that it is cheap.
  5. Pride costs us more than hunger, thirst, and cold.
  6. We never regret having eaten too little.
  7. Nothing is difficult that we do out of free will.
  8. The most pain cause us bad things that have never happened.
  9. Chose to tackle things smoothly.
  10. When you’re angry, count to ten before you speak; if very angry, count to a hundred.

According to Thomas Jefferson, 3rd president of the United States.

Don’t Talk So Much

Listen intensely.

Don’t tell others what to do, think or feel.

Don’t talk about yourself to soothe your anxiety and exert control. Let go and focus on the other person.

Is what you’re saying saving you or someone else? If not, try to stay quiet.

Be brave enough to examine why you’re talking. What’s your intention? Do you want to connect or to control? 

Don’t unload all your saved-up words as soon as the other person seem ls to be done talking. Instead ask: “Is there more?”

Embrace stillness. Surrender to the discomfort of silence.